A mother has been hailed as the best personal dating coach after savagely insulting a man who sent her daughter an ‘insulting’ voice note on a dating app. Amy Acea was having dinner at Pizza Express with her mother, Sarah Acea, when she showed her a ‘rude’ message she received from a man on Hinge days ago.
The shocking voice note included a review from the man’s friend, who could be heard mocking the 22-year-old’s profile and laughing as it was “the same shit” he had seen online before. He then goes on to declare that the woman has a ‘crunchy pair of t**s’ before making further disgusting jokes of a sexual nature.
While the ‘desensitized’ fashion saleswoman tried to laugh it off, her mother had other ideas and decided she needed to call her out, and she didn’t hold back. Singleton shared a clip of her mother’s ‘iconic’ response on TikTok.
In the clip, you can hear Sarah say: ‘If you think this comment is even vaguely appropriate, I really question your level of intelligence and IQ.’ The 59-year-old mother of four continues: ‘My daughter is definitely more precious than anything, two minutes, oh sorry, two seconds. [sex act]’.
Hundreds of users took to the comments to praise Sarah’s response, with many branding her a ‘legend’. Amy admits her mum is now her ‘personal dating coach’ and she loves how Sarah is ‘so involved in her love life’.
After the video went viral, a Hinge user responded to the duo and confessed: [need[s] He said he had to be very careful about what he said to avoid falling into TikTok. Amy, from Hitchin, Hertfordshire, said: “The voicemail was shocking. It was truly insulting and degrading.
“I’ve been a little desensitized to it. I’ve seen it a lot on Hinge. But this was definitely one of the rudest ones. He said it with great sincerity. “I left it for a few days because I didn’t do it. I don’t know how to answer. I was bitching about these guys but normally I don’t reply when I get a message like this.
“Then I went out to dinner with my mom and said, ‘You’re not going to believe what I got. This is what I’m dealing with.’ She was getting angry. I think I found it funnier than she did.” He had really funny lines and good quotes. I said, ‘Mom, you can handle this.’
“He’ll attack your intelligence before he attacks your manhood, which is hilarious. He knows where to hit, which is a powerful tool. I’m actually really proud of it.” The fashion marketer revealed that she had been single for five months and initially downloaded the app to prove to her family that she was over her ex.
His ‘concerned’ mother was now very involved in his love life and was grateful for him sharing these issues. Amy said: “I think my mom is a lot more interested in my love life than she is with other people’s parents. Maybe it’s because she’s worried. She’s my personal dating coach.”
“I’m trying to explain to her that it’s not that easy in your 20s because that’s what you’re faced with. I think our mothers come from a different generation where dating is completely different. It’s so evolved. She just can’t understand it, let alone say it to a stranger on an app, let alone say it to a stranger.” Even say it to his face.
“It’s always a little disheartening to get a comment like that. I’m not used to dating. Everyone says [dating apps] It’s like a game. I didn’t believe it until I was single and moved on. I find it a little scary, but having my mom makes it kind of funny. We can laugh about it and talk about it.
“The fact that the video has gotten so much attention shows that it resonates with a lot of people, a lot of women my age who are going through the same things.”
Daughter admits she’s lost hope in dating apps and urges people to ‘know’ [their] It’s worth it when faced with similar experiences. Amy said: “I would totally prefer to meet someone in person. It’s sad. I downloaded this to prove to my mum and dad that I had broken up with my ex.”
“In terms of actually using it, I don’t think it’s mine. Don’t take it too seriously, but know your value. If it’s the wrong kind of attention, stay in your lane and the right things will come to you. And they definitely won’t come to you in the form of rude voice notes on Hinge.”
Her mother said the man needed to “call out” to his daughter to show her that women should not accept this treatment and “laugh it off” as he had done in the past. Sarah said: “The choice of language was so insulting and it truly broke my heart. “It was a terrible thing for my daughter to admit.
“My daughter is a really bright and intelligent girl and she doesn’t deserve to be talked to like that. When she sang me that song my jaw hit the floor. We were having a great evening. I was a little horrified.”
“I sat there and looked at my daughter, and she was laughing. She knew it was inappropriate. That’s what women do. They make you uncomfortable and laugh when something is inappropriate. That’s exactly what my younger self did.
“And I thought she needed to call it out. It really seemed like a natural thing to do. But I hope it’s not too inappropriate. I’ve raised my daughters to be outspoken and to be able to advocate for themselves. But there’s almost an acceptance.” That’s almost what they hope to achieve among young women.”
The ‘protective’ mother admitted she believed the ‘inappropriate’ voice note pointed to ‘misguided misogyny’ in society, which left her fearful for her daughter. Sarah said: “I think being a mother I feel very protective of my daughters. I wonder if she would say this to her face.”
“Hiding behind social media and the mobile phone platform, maybe he felt a little anonymous and was able to say it a little more. His motivation was to go straight there with the masculine ideal of being strong, emotionless and immediately asserting his sexuality. I find that really wrong.”
“While she may find it funny, it’s completely inappropriate. I’m sure her mother will be truly horrified. I’m sure that, when you strip it all down, the gentleman downstairs is a lovely, thoughtful and sensitive young man.”
“I think young men have gone astray in society. I think there’s a lot of misguided misogyny. I think society does a disservice to men, too. I don’t think people are combating some of the misogynistic attitudes that permeate our society.”
The 58-year-old admitted she sees modern dating as a ‘minefield’ and was unaware of her daughter’s treatment until she viewed her Hinge profile. Sarah said: “I didn’t quite realize it. I look at my daughters and think I wouldn’t want to be a young woman in my 20s now and that’s really sad. “It seems to be the way people meet each other now.
“I’m in my 50s and life seemed so much easier when I was younger. You didn’t have social media to navigate dating. It’s like a minefield for me. I don’t know how my girls deal with it.”
Many users praised the mother’s reaction in the comments.
One user said: “She’s iconic.”
Another user said: “Your mother is a legend and speaks beautifully.” he said.
A third user said: “Your mother is so careful and wild.”
Other users took to the comments to express their shock at the voice note.
One user said: “What makes these guys think it’s okay to talk to a woman like that?”
Another user said: “I don’t understand. It’s crazy to make a match and then immediately miss any chance.”
A third user said: “Someone call [his] Mom because I need his opinion on his behavior.”
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